Reuben,

 

We need to talk about this whole situation about your Mom wanting to take Taylor up to see her parents.  For right now I have told your mother No.  I think she is too young and I'm just not comfortable with the idea.  Your Grandparents have seen Taylor 4 times, they are SO lucky to have seen her and spend that much time with her.

 

Your mother's argument to me was that I drove 6 hours to see my Grandmother and yes we drove up to New Jersey but we drove up there for an 50th anniversary party for my Mom's Aunt and we stopped by the nursing home on our way out of town for 1 hour to see my Grandmother.  We didn't specifically go up to see my Grandma and we didn't go back up there again.  I could have but I decided that it was just too much. 

 

I don't think that I should be the one fighting with your mother about this.  Maybe you want her to go, I don't know, you won't answer your damn phone but regardless I don't want her to go and unfortunately or fortunately I have the final say in this.

 

I also want to talk to you about your "beach" trip at the end of August.  I am very concerned with last weeks events.  Go ahead and call me up right now and tell me your going to take me back to court because I know that's what your thinking.  Neither one of us want to play that game.  I think it would be in your best interest to sty in town with Taylor those days and do something with her here.  You don't need to be spending all that money on a hotel when it's the last week of the summer before school starts and it's very expensive, especially since your so concerned about being able to afford your apartment. 

We need to sit down and have a serious talk about these events that have happened.  I need you to be calm and understand where I am coming from and try and put yourself in my shoes for just 1 second and see where I'm coming from.  Pretend that I threatened suicide and drove home drunk.  How would you react to me????  Think about it for a few minutes before you answer.  How would you really react if I wanted to commit suicide and I was responsible for your daughter?  What would you do?

You know I care about you and I care about how you feel and I care about your well being.  It's not my place to think that your crazy for trying to stay with Susan but then again it is my place to not think that it's the best situation for Taylor. 

 

With that said.  Please call me CALMLY so we can talk.